Before Bluebell left though, she asked if I had any questions. I said I did...but that they were about Dude and Dolly's case. I wanted to pick her brain. I completely understood if she was busy or didn't want to. But...if she was willing, I really wanted another worker's take on things.
Bluebell said she'd chat, no problem. We went to the kitchen to discuss things away from the cherubs.
I spelled out everything that has happened in the case. I expressed my concern over Grandma "wanting" the kids but not having ANY kind of a relationship with them.
Bluebell informed me that placement with Grandma, given these circumstances, is AGAINST State policy. Policy says that the person needs to have a "significant relationship" with the child – even if it's a blood relative.
This is where it got interesting. Bluebell recommends that we:
1. Get our own lawyer. We need to do this before we say anything officially to CPS. We need to do this so that CPS doesn't get "offended" and decide they want to move the kids. When I told her who the supervisor over Jasmine is, she made it very clear again that we need to get a lawyer first. I guess the supervisor over this case is a real peace of work!!
2. File a formal complaint against DFPS. They are not following their own policies and we can complain. She told me where to go on the website and everything.
I asked Bluebell if she knew of a lawyer to recommend. She does – but wasn't sure if said lawyer would be able to represent us in our county as she is located one county over. I tried to call the law office after Bluebell left but no one answered. I have to assume they were gone for the weekend.
I called Mr. Amazing to let him know what Bluebell recommended. He had a 1/2 hour left on his commute home today so he's got a bit of time to think about things.
I have NO IDEA what we're going to do. I don't know if we're in a place where we want to hire a lawyer to potentially be chasing rainbows. On paper, this case doesn't look that messy. CPS needs to tie up some loose ends and it's quite common to place children with grandparents. Grandma hasn't ever hurt these children so it's not unreasonable for the placement to happen. And Bluebell was quick to tell me that the judge down here doesn't like it when people intervene in CPS cases.
But I do want what is best for these two beautiful children. And since no family members are able to step up and come forward for these kids except a grandma that isn't really that interested, I think we are what's best for these two beautiful children.
I'm asking for prayer for our family. We need to make the wise choice for our family and for these children. If doors open, I guess we'll walk through. We just have to know what doors to approach first.