Well well well...
Abby is NOT going to be the worker handling Dude & Dolly's case. Instead, Miss Supervisor is going to continue to run the show.
The Miss Supervisor that showed up to my house this afternoon was not the same person that showed up April 30. Oh...it was the same human body. But her intentions were radically different.
She literally told the children they are moving to Dallas. (Screw the D*** anymore. If I get busted writing this blog 'cause someone important figures me out I get busted.) She held Dolly on her lap and said that when she moves in with Grandma N she will get to see her (and I quote) "real, REAL mommy".
Oh my. I'm fake. I'm a fake mommy.
Dolly probably told Miss Supervisor she wants to stay with Mamma at least half a dozen times. (She didn't even call me Mamma L***. She just kept saying "stay with Mamma".) Miss Supervisor's response, "You're going to go to Dallas with Grandma N."
Dude is not impressed! He wouldn't get off my lap. And when Miss Supervisor started explaining the day visits they are going to take to Dallas, Dude was even less impressed. He flat out told her he doesn't want to fly on an airplane.
Dolly kept focusing on the part when Miss Supervisor told them, "they'll come back here". Dolly made sure they would be coming back to Mamma. That's all she cared about.
I'm not surprised. I'm not surprised at all. My heart is broken in a million pieces. But I'm not surprised. And to clarify, yes...I'm personally hurt by all this. But mostly, I'm hurt for the children. They need permanency. I even told Miss Supervisor that they should have been moved in November. If the State was so Hell bent on moving them, they should have just gone!
I pointed out that my disappointment in Grandma is her lack of involvement. That she is not initiating ANYTHING. I think it's perfectly stupid that the State is now going to initiate and pay for day trips up to Dallas. Forcing a relationship like this isn't going to change anything. Sure, the kids might even have fun. It's a day trip. And yes...it will help them have a better understanding of where they are going to go. But I don't think the State wants to recognize that it's not helping develop a "relationship". It's just an expensive game they are playing and the kids are hanging out in foster care while they play it.
They should have moved to Grandma's house in November when they started this whole mess the first time.
When we go to court next (which might be sooner than September if they do indeed call a special hearing like Miss Supervisor wants to) we will be in front of a new judge. The children will also have a new lawyer. This will probably be the biggest game changer of all. It is because of their current lawyer that they have stayed in Care. Their lawyer right now does not think it's in the childrens' best interests to go to Dallas at all. She made that very clear in court on Monday. I probably shouldn't speculate as to how the new lawyer will feel about things. But I'm betting once they have a visit or two in Dallas, the new lawyer will send them to live there permanently and just be done with the case.
I'm not surprised. I don't like it at all. But I'm not surprised!