Thursday, August 23, 2012

Once bitten...

It's amazing how much different I feel during home visits now. I used to not think twice. "Come on in. Ask anything you want. I'll show you the whole house."

Now... not so much.

Rainbow is here with the littlest cherubs up in their room talking. I've got a pit in my stomach. I still don't have a single thing to hide. But, once bitten...twice shy.

7 comments:

Jennifer said...

I can't blame you. None of my workers have ever purposely taken my kids into another room to talk to them. They have been alone with them a handful of times if they have picked them up for an appointment, but they don't talk to them for every home visit.

CherubMamma said...

ALL the workers down here (both CPS and my licensing agency) take the kids to their room and talk to them alone. I'm totally used to it. I just had a sick feeling during the "interview" today. And then to have it followed up with the new mandatory body check my agency has to do each month... yuck.

But I know that kids get hurt in foster care. I do believe that safeguards have to be put in place. I know that those safeguards have to apply to all foster homes.

But... yuck.

Mandy said...

Yes, but still, a body check? Can you imagine being a 9 year old foster child and having to be "body checked" once a month. I can't even imagine how much this would traumatize my boys. Wow.

CherubMamma said...

The body check is new for Texas. They are supposed to look over the kids once a month. Tummy, back, legs, arms, feet and hands. Because Pumpkin is non-verbal I have to change her diaper in front of my licensing worker so she can see all of Pumpkin.

I can't imagine how the bigger kids handle it! Really, I can't! Get a super mad 12 year old and they'll hurt themselves to spite before a home visit from the worker. These things do happen.

Rainbow told my little ones she was looking for mosquito bites. I HATE lying to my kids for just about any reason at all. I tell the truth at the development level they can handle. The out and out lie made me horribly uncomfortable. But I figure I'll deal with the truth a month from now if the littles are still with me. (Which is highly unlikely.)

Jennifer said...

Wow, how are you supposed to teach kids about appropriate touch when that is happening every month?

Adopt2FosterMommy said...

THAT is insane! Yea, how about the sexually abused children, how does that make them feel? Any ideas TEXAS? Argh!

orphanmother said...

I am learning so much from your blog. Mostly encouragement, but wow, this investigation stuff is very scary. Our family is currently fostering our second sibling group of 2. While everyday is challenging just "parenting", I can't imagine the stress of an investigation. Thank you so much for sharing this information and your honest feelings. Oh, how I can relate to some of your posts.