Like others, he tossed out the idea of calling the local police the next time my kids are there for a visit. But when I made the comment, "What if they find out I did it?! I don't want to get investigated again," he paused and shook his head. Me leaping to that sort of a conclusion is not out of the question. CPS doesn't want me to advocate. If I do, they can make my life miserable. They have that power. Like it or not, I'm the one that has to be treated like an idiot. I'm the one that has to answer to everyone about any parenting decision I make. I'm the one that has to keep piles and piles of paperwork justifying everything. I'm the one that has to attend hours and hours of redundant training that barely scratches the surface of what it's like to parent a child from the hurt places. The kinship placement does get different rules and expectations. They shouldn't. But they do.
Since I can't do anything about the big picture, I decided to bite the bullet with a smaller issue. I finally mustered up the courage to pen the following email, attach some pictures and hit the send button. I know I won't hear anything today. It'll be interesting to see if anyone responds though. I sent this to Minnie, Rainbow and the new GAL.
Dolly would like to request a haircut. Because she is only five years old, I am helping her out with this request. Anything you can do to help would be much appreciated.
1. Dolly's hair has not stopped growing since she came in to Care. As evidenced by the attached photos, her hair is now down to her knees.
2. Dolly desires to wear her hair like her classmates at school (not up in a ponytail or braid). This is currently not possible due to the overwhelming length of her hair. It would get in the way at school and at play.
4. Dolly occasionally cries during the times that her hair must be brushed. It takes a long time to care for this much hair and she is tired of the process and the pain when it comes to getting out the tangles.
5. The hair also must be pulled up at all times for hygiene reasons. Even in a ponytail it still reaches past her waist now. (This poses as a health concern to me.)
6. As a foster parent, I am unable to teach Dolly to care for her hair herself as it is too long. She is not physically capable of washing and rinsing her hair, brushing it or getting out the inevitable tangles.
7. Her bio mom is currently in jail and has no contact with Dolly. The bio parents have not agreed to haircuts which is why I need further legal permission to do this.
8. The paternal grandmother that the State wishes to place Dolly with is also in agreement that a haircut is needed.
Dolly would like permission to cut her hair up to above her waistline.
Please let me know if you need any additional information.