Monday, March 11, 2013

Minnie's response

Minnie responded to my haircut request....
I would need to contact mom however I know she get very upset when we tell her we want to cut it. She claims it some type of promised.  I will also send a letter to the father.

I will send a letter out to mother today and ask for permission. And I will send her this pictures.
I'm slightly bothered that we are still messing with asking the bios on this. (I'm also incredibly bothered by the above grammar that was copied and pasted from the email Minnie sent me. LOL) At some point in time CPS and/or the lawyer could take this request before the judge. I am confident that it isn't that big of a deal.

But what do I know?! Drugs, felons and more are all acceptable too. Why should I get all upset about a haircut?!


G said...

I'd be bothered by the grammar, too. What does "claims it some type of promised" even mean?

Ugh. Wish somebody with power in this case had some sense.

MamaFoster said...

That's a nice "I'm not in the mood to deal with this" answer. Who cares what the kid wants anyway, right?

Mitzy said...

If Dolly has a good child advocate/lawyer they should be able to attain permission from the court for a hair cut. The whole thing is pretty ridiculous.

Carrie said...

I was thinking the same thing about the grammar-yikes!

angela ford said...

wow. I'd cut it and get in trouble.... but if they don't care enough to do what's right, then they wouldn't care if I cut it.

Mandy said...

Yep, I might even let one of my kids "accidently" cut off 6 inches and then take her somewhere to have it "fixed." My daughter's hair is very long. It reaches to the bottom of her back. We like it long, and she likes it long, but she's had plenty of haircuts. Sanitation is a big reason why!

If they don't care about drugs, felons, syringes, and sleeping with Grandma, what are they going to do to you? Cut your hair?

Mandy said...

Oh yeah, and one more thing... I know having long hair until the 15th birthday is a big deal for some in the Hispanic community, and I would respect that, but if you took off 6 inches her hair would still be very long.

hmm said...

It really is a big legal deal. If you cut that hair you will get into big trouble, the case worker will get into trouble ect.

The case worker has no power to force the mother to consent. The case law is pretty clear on it to the judge really doesn't have the authority to force the issue while mom still has legal rights. He might do it since I doubt mom is knowledgeable and capable of an appeal but I doubt it.

Hair is a big deal and unfortunately unless they get mom to agree your stuck with it.

I saw a case this summer where a mother wouldn't let her twin boys gets hair cuts they were being teased at school for having long hair and there was still nothing to court would/could do about it.

CherubMamma said...

I would NEVER cut the hair myself. I know that the bio parents have to give consent or there is huge trouble to be had. Even if she did get gum in it or someone cut a portion off like children sometimes do, I would NOT touch the hair without permission.

Minnie even told me once that if Grandma N would have done it (because she wants to as well) it could have jeopardized the State being able to place the children there.

I did NOT know that a judge couldn't overrule. That surprises me. The judges have control over everything else. In this particular case I would think that hygiene alone would justify getting some length removed.

Either way -- I told Dolly I would ask after she cried last time. It's the least I can do.

CandCFamily said...

I just want to cry for her, she has no control over anything in her life. Something as simple as a trim. Honestly no one would even notice a 2-3 inch trim.
I wish she had one person of power advocating for her, I know you do, but she needs a judge, lawyer, GAL, someone that really cares how these kids are doing and can do something about it.