NURSE AT DENTIST OFFICE: "When would you like the next appointment scheduled? It's six months out from now."
ME: (almost laughing) "Six months?! Doesn't matter. I've got NO idea what my schedule will be like in six months. Just make the appointment for whenever."
NICE LADY IN WAITING ROOM (NLIWR): "I keep my planner with me so I can keep track of my appointments."
ME: "Oh yeah, I live and breathe by my Franklin Covey at home." (The waiting room was almost empty, I didn't have any foster cherubs with me, so I decided to elaborate.) "But we are a foster family and I cannot predict what anything is going to look like six months from now."
NLIWR: "Oh thank you for being a foster family."
ME: "Um. Yeah." (It was really strange to be thanked for this so quickly by a total stranger!)
NLIWR: "My daughter used to be a social worker with CPS for about four years down here. She's up in Houston now working for an adoption agency. She still works with foster parents though."
...insert nice chit chat about The System...
NLIWR: "How long have you fostered?"
ME: "We did it for about three years when we lived in Iowa. We've been licensed down here for about three years now too."
NLIWR: "Are those two brothers?" (indicating toward TT and Bart)
NLIWR: "Do you have any kids of your own?"
ME: "Oh yes. All of them."
NLIWR: "I mean...do have any biological kids?"
NLIWR: "How many?"
NLIWR: "How many? How many of your kids are your own?"
ME: "All of them are mine."
....this went back and forth for entirely too long...
Eventually NLIWR figured out I wasn't going to tell her how many were bio and how many I adopted. You see, TT was sitting right there. It was not this lady's business to know how many kids I adopted and how many I birthed. I'm sure if I had told her she would have wanted to know who was who. And that was none of her damn business!!! It's such a fine dance. I don't want TT to be embarrassed about being adopted. But ultimately it is HIS story to tell...not mine. At least not like this!! I finally ended the conversation by telling NLIWR that I had three forever kids and two foster cherubs.
I've heard about conversations like this. I kinda hoped I'd never have to have one. It was horribly frustrating and I'm still not sure I handled it quite as well as I should have. I'm going to have to work on my script better for the future.