Due to a somewhat obsessive need to continually check on the incarceration status of Dude and Dolly's bio parents, I discovered today that Bio Mom is currently being held in a facility that will allow her to keep the baby that is due in approximately two months with her.
We shouldn't get a call at all about the baby as Bio Mom's release date is set for this summer. If for some reason the baby is removed from Bio Mom at a later date, it is likely that Dude and Dolly will already be with their Grandma in Dallas and we will no longer be a licensed foster family.
I am relieved. I really don't want to parent a baby where it is known that drugs were used during the pregnancy...especially since the drug of choice was synthetic marijuana. I know – miracles can happen. But this baby is already set up to have a very, very difficult time in life and he/she isn't even born yet. I've got enough going on with our family dynamics. I really don't want a drug (and possible FASD) baby. And in the grand scheme of things, I don't think keeping Dude and Dolly together with this new baby (that is likely to end up in Care eventually) is necessary. It would be nice I suppose in the long run. But the age difference is big enough and their circumstances different enough that I don't see a benefit right now in keeping all three together.
Dude and Dolly are starting therapy this Friday. I'm still blown away that Minnie is requiring this. If these cherubs are being set up to leave my home in less than two months...why do they need therapy now?! They aren't staying in the area so they won't be able to maintain the relationship after they are placed with Grandma N. And due to where the therapy is taking place, I don't believe that this therapist is in Minnie's pocket (so to speak) or that she will be pushing Minnie's agenda necessarily.
Either way, I'm going to be honest with this therapist. I will tell her about my concerns in Dallas. I will be forthcoming when I say that Dolly expresses a desire to live in Dallas but that Dolly does NOT understand that living in Dallas means saying goodbye to everyone here forever.
It ought to be interesting to say the least. It is a play therapist. And to start, she's going to meet with the cherubs together. When I asked what to expect in the future, the therapist said it will depend on how the first session goes and what the issues are. I smiled and told her that there are no issues. The therapist seemed quite taken aback. But really...there aren't. The only "issues" are because my cherubs are languishing in Care. I'll let y'all know how it goes.