Dolly: Mommy...(while shaking extremely long braids around in the air)...Mommy...I want to be an E*** (our last name). Mommy....Mommy....and I want my hair super short!
Me: Dolly...(getting down on my knees to look her in the eyes)...Dolly...I'm trying. I don't know when it's going to happen. I don't know if it's going to happen. But I want you to be an E*** too!! I'm working on it.
(Getting serious)...Dolly, if you become an E*** it will make your Mommy C very sad.
-- Dolly's eyes widened and she had to hold back some big emotion --
I'm sorry Dolly. But your Mommy C can't take care of you. The judge said. But Dolly, I can take care of you.
-- Dolly's eyes immediately brightened and she smiled --
I can take care of you Dolly. And it's OK for you to love both your Mommy C and me. You don't have to choose.
Dolly has been talking about her Mommy C*** a LOT lately. Mr. Amazing had to do some therapeutic parenting last night when Dude came downstairs after bedtime to announce that Dolly was crying in her pillow. Mr. Amazing is the one that introduced the idea of being able to love both her first family and us. It has been very comforting for her. In fact, tonight as soon as I said it, she was back to bouncing all over her bedroom and twirling those braids around in the air again.
Now...how do I go about telling her that the next time she sees Mommy C*** she'll also be meeting a new brother or sister.
This foster parenting stuff is NOT for the faint of heart!!!