Thursday, July 11, 2013

Privacy question

I've got a question for all you seasoned foster parents. I mean...I feel like I'm really seasoned...but I've not had this particular situation come up yet. I'm interested in knowing how others have handled this.

When do you teach your foster child(ren) their (aka YOUR) address and/or phone number?
How do you handle any concern of them potentially telling their bio family this information?

5 comments:

Deb said...

I have no good answer but would love to hear others. We ran in to that very quickly with our first placement who was 6 years old. The name of her elementary school was the city we lived in.

UKYHowards said...

Good question. When our 7.5 year old was practicing phone number & address at school we had her practice her bio dad's information. That did not, however, keep her from telling her dad our last name when he asked and mentioning the name of our neighborhood. If there is a way to keep school aged children from sharing this information I would love to know!

D's Momma said...

When we knew that ours were leaving, we taught them our phone number..yes, there's the risk that bios will call us, but at that point it was more important to me that the KIDS be able to reach us at any time if they needed us once they left (we are much safer to call than DHS or 911!). Before that, though, we kept our exact address and phone number from them as much as possible..

Foster Mom - R said...

Since ours were older and they had to memorize for school we sat them down and explained that this was special information and it was against the rules for foster families to share it with Biological parents. I had set up a Google voice for the number for their Mom but they memorized my cell- for safety reasons. In the end we were able to form a relationship with Bio Mom so when the kids told me they had driven to our house after a visit to the nearby Goodwill I didn't freak out.

Teresa said...

I give my cell number to all the bios anyway, so there was never a fear of teaching the kids that. We taught our address to our son at 4yrs old because that's what they were doing in preschool. He promptly and proudly told his Grandma, who has a custody petition in for him. From what I know, she hasn't used her newfound info.