However, immediately following this success, Mrs. Beach started to pass out scissors for the next activity. She handed Dolly hers along with two other little boys in the class. Then she stopped herself and gave the rules, "Only cut on paper." She explained how to hold scissors, how to pass scissors to another student safely and she repeated herself multiple times, "Only cut on paper."
Dolly took the scissors in her hand and promptly cut off a hunk of her own hair.
|Mrs. Beach saved the hair for me.|
I didn't really know what to say. This is NOT typical behavior for Dolly. I tried to help Mrs. Beach understand that Dolly might not have understood what she was being told. However, I also told Mrs. Beach that Dolly had been exposed to scissors before and she knew the rules from using them at home.
Things have just been strange for the past couple weeks.
Both children have regressed a great deal. Dolly is difficult to understand when she's talking. Not only is her speech garbled, but her sentence structure is off. Her thinking in general seems mixed up at times. I realize my worries can be blown off. So many parents can say, "sure...my kids do the same things." But I know MY kids. And something's "off".
The biggest indicator for me is their inability to play appropriately. They cannot seem to get engaged. I'm trying to not overreact. There could be so many reasons why this is going on. But I'll be honest. It bugs the heck out of me. I'm having a hard time dealing with it because for almost two years, these kids have played so well.
When they came they had never been exposed to toys. They each had one stuffed animal from home. That was it. But, they had pretty much been homeless before coming in to Care (if I know their story right), and it's hard to have toys if you don't have a home (or even a vehicle) to keep them in. When they moved in they had so many things to play with. Both kids did a wonderful job of playing with something and then picking up after themselves when they were done. They loved to pretend with our play kitchen. They enjoyed blocks, Legos, action figures, a doll house and so much more. The cherubs could play for extended periods of time needing almost no redirection.
The past couple weeks though?! They can't seem to play. They spend their time walking around in circles making this incredibly goofy giggle. They wander aimlessly not doing much of anything. They might get toys out but they don't actually play with them. And the dump-and-run....oh the dump-and-run. They're taking toys, dumping them out all over the play room, not really playing with them and then dumping out some more. This is typical behavior for toddlers but I've never experienced it with Dude and Dolly since they moved in.
- I know that part of it is because Dude started school a week before Dolly did.
For that first week, Dolly didn't know how to play by herself.
- The video Minnie made messed Dolly up in the head.
- The trip to Dallas was difficult for both kids.
- Just starting school, in and of itself, is difficult.
- They know court is coming up.
- And I'm guessing it might be because a year ago is when they came BACK to me after the investigation.
I just figured out that last bullet point as I was typing this up.
Alright -- so I'll leave the entire post even though I just figured it out.
My kids have regressed. It's probably due to all the things mentioned above,
but I can stop worrying about why it's getting worse.
Trauma-versaries are difficult!
Foster Care Sucks.