Daisy's new visit schedule is unlike anything I've ever even heard of.
If I understand things correctly, the judge ordered that a babysitter of sorts be present during the "unsupervised" visits that will take place in Bio Mom's home. This babysitter is not going to be contracted by the State though. I honestly do NOT understand their role exactly. If Bio Mom wants to go out during the visit, for example, can she leave the baby? I mean...SHE is the one that hired the babysitter and is paying for their services. And if the babysitter sees something that concerns them, are they required to report it? How can the State require an employee of Bio Mom's to report anything?! (Of course I would hope that any child care provider would report abuse. But what about the subtleties of this case that aren't abuse...yet...but cause great concern? ie: a baby crying inconsolably and the parent being unable to handle things)
I live in a rather large city. But it's small enough that Bio Mom contacted the exact same babysitting service as what I had already interviewed for my own, personal use.
After learning of how these visit dynamics were going to work I got concerned. I can't put my finger on it, it was just a gut feeling. It didn't sit right with me. I decided the correct thing to do would be to "drop out" myself.
So this morning I sent an email to the owner of the babysitting service. I told them that if they wanted to continue to proceed with the myriad of background checks, reference checks and fingerprinting I MIGHT consider utilizing their services AFTER the new visits with Daisy were established and I could see how Daisy was responding. But as of right now, it felt like a conflict of interests to me and I wanted to back out.
After a brief discussion, the owner of the babysitting service became rather concerned herself. She was unaware of the full role CPS was asking her company to take in this dance. She informed me that she was going to back out as well.
The more I thought about it the more I realized I had to be proactive again. I just got off the phone with Mr. CW. His voice fell as I explained the story. Even he agreed that this could be easily spun to make it sound like I was trying to sabotage things. I went ahead and documented the entire relationship with the babysitting service in an email. Thank God I'm able to prove that I made contact first and that once I realized how the dance was proceeding I bowed out first.
I have no idea what this is going to mean in the grand scheme of things. Maybe they'll proceed with the visits and not have anyone there. Maybe they'll force Mom to find a different babysitter. Either way, I bet Mom is going to be mad at me if she catches wind of any of this. But...even Bio Mom is aware that the babysitting service had met with me first and she continued moving forward herself. The owner of the company told her that when the needs assessment was done at Bio Mom's house.
Dancing with CPS is never easy!!