Lawyers, in general, don't make me nervous at all. It's just how The System works down here that messes with me. I don't personally feel like I should have to chase down the lawyer for a meeting. In my rainbow and lollipop world, the lawyers should call the caregivers (if the cherubs are young) and talk with them once a month. If the cherubs are older, the lawyers should set up a meeting with the child they represent. But...that's my rainbow and lollipop world. Reality down where I live is that lawyers do not do much and decisions are made on limited information given to them minutes before everyone is standing in front of the judge.
So I scheduled this meeting.
I rehearsed about a million different introductions. I never hit on a script that I liked. Because, keep in mind, I have to support whatever the State is supporting. And this lawyer was pushing for reunification just 10 days ago.
I'm sitting here 90 minutes later and I honestly can't tell you how I started things. (Stress really messes with my head.) But I can tell you the conversation was smooth, the lawyer talked to me like I had a clue, and she took notes. (Yes...the lawyer took notes!!)
The topic I wanted to come up the most did come up. And I came right out and said it, "Bio Mom and Bio Dad are still together. No, they don't have the same physical address. But they are very much emotionally together."
I then sited my three examples:
- Bio Mom showing the video during the visit and then saying that nobody knows Bio Dad like she does
- Bio Mom and Bio Dad asking if they could live together again when they were at the Family Group Conference. Bio Mom stating during said conference that she is waiting to see what happens at the criminal trial when it comes to her relationship with Bio Dad.
- Bio Mom telling the babysitting service that she's still with Bio Dad.
As much as I wanted to fully focus on the relationship with Bio Mom and Bio Dad that puts Daisy at risk, I tried to keep my focus on Daisy and her medical needs. The lawyer seemed totally OK with court ordering that Bio Mom keep up with all interventions if reunification happens. I found it interesting though...Ms. Lawyer didn't know anything about Daisy not having vaccinations or any medical care prior to the injury. I did my best to explain that Bio Mom will have a LOT to juggle to keep up with all of Daisy's therapies and specialists.
All in all I think the meeting went well.
When I got home I sent a text right away to Mr. CW to let him know that I had met with the lawyer. I wanted him to have the heads up since Ms. Lawyer indicated she would be checking in with Mr. CW. I do not want him blindsided by anything! (I like Mr. CW!)
Now I wait. I'm guessing nothing is going to change right away. I have to hope that Ms. Lawyer will better advocate for Miss Daisy as the case moves forward – now that she has the bigger picture painted.