The first thing the judge did was change the trial date to August 19. It is NOT a TPR trial. I don't really know how to explain everything. Even though every single hearing sounds exactly the same to me, they have different names and supposedly different agendas at the different hearings. Today was a pre-trial. On August 19 everyone has to be ready to go to trial on the case. If Daisy remains in Care she has a dismissal date of November 11, 2014. When The System works correctly, cherubs have permanency by their dismissal date.
Then the judge went around the room and asked for updates from everyone.
- Kori's lawyer asked for a monitored placement. She wanted Daisy to go home but still have CPS up in Kori's business making random surprise visits and such.
- Daisy's lawyer was extremely conservative and wanted no part of a monitored placement. She wants visits to continue and was OK with extending them to weekend overnights. She did go in to great detail about her concerns with Kori's denial. She and I spoke prior to the case being called and she used a lot of what I told her when she spoke to the judge. She stated that she's incredibly concerned that Kori would have anything to do with Bio Dad at all. She then expressed how disgusted (that's NOT the word she used but it was the tone) she was when she saw Kori letting Bio Dad coo all over Daisy while we waited for the case to be called.
- CPS then stated that they were willing to add overnight weekend visits for Kori and Daisy.
Weekend visits have been approved. Daisy will leave my care on Saturday at 7:00pm and stay with her mom until Monday at 6:00pm. The extended visits on Thursdays (from 10:00am to 4:00pm) will continue as well. Daisy is to have no contact with Bio Dad at all!
And that was that.
Unless Kori totally screws up and lets Bio Dad come over, Daisy will go home in August.
The State still has a primary goal of "relative conservatorship". But when the judge asked if there were any relatives, and the State said NO, he told CPS, "Then you're going to have to change your goal because this isn't working." The judge then went on to say, "You need to be up front with Bio Mom if you're going to remove her child permanently. Otherwise, you need a new goal."
The State doesn't have grounds to terminate rights on Kori. She was not there when her daughter was injured and she has done absolutely everything the State has asked of her.
She's still in incredible denial. She does not believe that Bio Dad did to Daisy what the doctors say was done. She offers up no other explanation though. And we all know that Bio Dad did it because of what he HAS said.
Hopefully Bio Dad will be indicted before the trial in August. That really needs to happen in order to keep Daisy safe. Maybe by then Kori will come to better terms with everything and will begin picking up the pieces and moving on - AWAY from Bio Dad.
I just have to pray that what appears to possibly be a pattern with Kori is broken very soon. She has a lot of emotional healing to do and she has to face this change alone. I do believe that she loves her daughter very, very much. I believe she is capable of meeting Daisy's medical needs. I'm not confident that she WILL meet them. She looks at modern medicine with a very distrusting eye. But she is capable. And maybe, just maybe, my influence will help her be OK with the level of modern medicine Daisy needs. I'm not somebody that runs to the doctor at the drop of a hat. Kori and I have been in agreement that Daisy doesn't need to be seen for the nasty cold that is keeping Daisy up at night coughing. Maybe we can bond over things like this and Kori will trust me more when I explain why Daisy needs to be on anti-seizure medication and that the baclofen for muscle spasms is really important.
Either way, I'm sure this case will be done on August 19. If not, it means that Daisy was once again put in harm's way and Kori really screwed up. I hope it doesn't come to that.