Tuesday, May 16, 2017

getting a babysitter

Yesterday, a new friend that I met in B.A.C.A. came over to the house to visit. (Let's call her Butterfly.) We sat around and just talked for a few hours. (It was soooooo nice to have some adult interactions!!) Not only is this woman wanting to get involved with B.A.C.A., but she's also a CASA volunteer already. She really understands the complexities of child abuse and foster care.

She also volunteered to do whatever it takes to become a babysitter for us.

I figured I'd share with everyone what that REALLY means.

If Butterfly is going to become a "legal" babysitter for any of my foster children, she has to be willing to:

  1. get complete background checks done including FBI fingerprints (at her cost)
  2. provide a copy of her driver's license and social security number to my licensing agency
  3. get tested for tuberculosis
  4. have CPR and First Aid training
  5. take a class in restraints that is held at my licensing agency
  6. read a study guide about supervision of foster children and take a test
  7. read a study guide about childhood development and take a test
  8. read a study guide about the Medicaid Health Passport and take a test
  9. read a study guide about transporting foster children in vehicles and take a test
  10. take an online class about psychotropic medications
  11. take an online class about trauma
  12. take an online class about being a medical consentor
  13. take an online class about disaster response
  14. take an online class about identifying and preventing child abuse
  15. take an online class about infection prevention
  16. take an online class about shaken baby syndrome
  17. take an online class about sudden infant death syndrome

I barely know Butterfly. But I'm really not comfortable asking her to do ALL that just so I can legally go out to dinner with my husband for a couple hours. Even if Herman, my son...age 20, is to babysit, he has to complete all of those requirements.

I haven't decided what I'm going to do. I'd like an opportunity to go out with my husband every now and then. But that's a lot to ask of anyone. Especially a causal friend. Especially when that friend is already a licensed nurse. But she still has to prove her knowledge for my agency. Especially when that friend has already undergone background checks and trainings to become a CASA volunteer. And did I mention, I barely know my new friend?!

Foster care sucks.


Anonymous said...

I say that if she's willing you definitely need to take her up on it. It's not as stringent here, but I met all the requirements for a friend's baby, and I didn't for one second feel forced or resentful. She knows that she doesn't have to. If she offers without coersion, that's her decision. Sometimes it's harder to give than to receive. This may be an opportunity for you to get better at receiving ��

Anonymous said...

I would love to babysit

Jessie Fife said...

Wow that is a lot. Our foster care no longer requirements any background information or checks to babysit our foster children in our home if it is less then 24hours.

Sharon said...

I agree with anonymous. She volunteered and you need to be able to be on the receiving end. You give generously all the time, sometimes you need to take. The Good Samaritan story - sometimes you are the man in the ditch and need to accept help! Even though you barely know her, you can tell her the requirements and she can always say "no" if she thinks it is too much. And it is by giving and taking that people become more than just barely know friends.