Cherub Mamma (me): Sleep deprived, work-at-home mom trying to juggle the needs of all the members of the house while also trying to not eat too much chocolate.
is the wonderful man that I've been married to for 24 years. He's a
terrific husband and an amazing father to all of our children. Our
marriage is something I am thankful for every day of my life.
Cherub 1 (AKA Herman):
20 year old boy. Amazing son of mine that is slowly becoming a mature adult (key word = slowly)! One
moment he's mature, responsible and a contributing member of society.
Then, in the next moment, I'm scared to death for his future and I feel
like a failure of a parent. Herman is a kind and compassionate kid who
is a wonderful big brother. Herman has ADHD and depression that is
relatively well managed. He lives at home and is attending trade school to become an automotive mechanic.
Cherub 2 (AKA TT):
14 year old boy. TT is incredibly insightful for his age. He looks at
life differently than most. He is active and rambunctious. He's also my
favorite cuddle bug. TT was our first foster placement ever when we
fostered in Iowa. He was adopted at birth. TT struggles significantly
with anxiety and is diagnosed with dyslexia.
Cherub 3 (AKA Bart):
13 year old boy. Talks more than anyone you'll ever meet. Is the
happiest child I've ever known...except when he's ticked off. Bart is
very positive and has an outlook on life that many in the world would
benefit from if they could be a little like him. (According to my mother
we should all #LiveLifeLikeBart.) Bart seems to find joy in the
smallest of things. He also has significant ADHD (heavy on the "H") and
keeps me on my toes!!
(January 18, 2017 - November 30, 2017)
Whiz: Whiz was 18 months old when he came. He's super smart...my Whiz Kid! He's spent most of his life in foster care. Whiz was placed at or near birth with his first foster family. He was reunified with both his parents in November 2016. Unfortunately, circumstances changed and Whiz had to enter Care again. I was told that his first foster family couldn't take him back - though I wasn't given much of a reason why.
Rex: sibling to Whiz and almost exactly 11 months younger than him. Both boys keep me hopping! This is Rex's first go-round in foster care. When he was born, despite the fact that his older brother was in Care, Rex went home with his parents.
These boys brought a mix of developmental delay due to (undiagnosed) FASD. They were placed with their paternal aunt and uncle who live in California. Auntie Carla and Uncle N are amazing! I stay in contact with AC on Facebook and see regular pictures and videos of the boys. They transitioned well and continue to thrive.
(April 6, 2015 - August 1, 2016) Russell and Star got their permanency with Russell's paternal grandmother and her family. This relative placement did not pass their home study the first time around. And sadly, many of the concerns that CPS had were not "really" addressed at all. The children were moved after a court hearing. We were given about four hours to pack their belongings and to say goodbye. The grandparents severed all ties with me immediately. I'm Facebook friends with their mother though, so I do see occasional pictures as she still has limited contact with the children.
This bundle of baby was 20 months old when he arrived. Sadly, he has
seen a lot of abuse (15 fractures) and neglect in his short little life.
Russell has Down syndrome and also came with the diagnosis of Failure
to Thrive (he weighed less than 10 pounds as of February 2015). Russell
is an incredibly happy baby and is super easy to care for!! He's making
terrific progress in The Crazy House. He's growing tall, gaining weight,
and learning to do all the things babies should be able to do.
has two sisters as well. His big sister, Violet, is three years old. She is in a kinship placement for the time being. His little sister, Star, lives
(June 18, 2015 - August 1, 2016)
girl, born April 15, 2015. Half-sister to Russell. To the best of my
knowledge, Star was never physically harmed before coming to live with
us....though someone did call the Hotline to report abuse. She lived
with an aunt for one week after removal from Mom. That placement fizzled
out and she came to live with us. She is beautiful and developing just
as a perfect infant should.
(January 26, 2015 - March 2, 2015)
Neverland Kids stayed such a short time because respite homes couldn't
be found when my father suddenly passed away. I needed to make an urgent
trip across the country and CPS insisted that I disrupt vs. respite
care and return to me. It was not my choice to disrupt but I had to be
there for my forever family!
Captain: 5 year old boy.
Oldest of a large sibling group (not all placed with us) including
Pirate and Tinkerbell. He suffered a horrific trauma and we're all just
getting to know each other.
Pirate: 3 year old boy. Speaks a
mix of English, Spanish and gibberish. Definitely needs speech therapy.
He's very active and so far needs a lot of redirection.
13 month old little girl. Perfect baby in every way if you don't factor
in the horrific trauma she was a part of. She has seen things that if I
saw would make me a shell of a human being for a long, long time.
(December 2013 - October 2014)
Came to me at 7 months old and left the day before her 17 month old
"birthday". Daisy is a victim of Shaken Baby Syndrome. Caring for Daisy
involved lots of work with specialists and therapists for PT, OT, ST and
vision. When she left she functioned at about the developmental age of
8-12 months. (She was learning to walk but couldn't self-feed well at
all and had almost no language.) Daisy went home to her mother, Kori. I
pray daily that Kori is able to meet all of Daisy's needs and that she
is able to protect Daisy from future abuse.
Daisy came back in to
foster care February 24, 2015 along with her newborn sister, Dandelion.
CPS was finally able to get enough evidence that Kori was allowing
contact between Daisy and her abuser. Sadly, my home was full with the
Neverland Kids and I couldn't welcome Daisy back. My agency also
wouldn't let me disrupt the Neverland Kids to take Daisy (as my
relationship with Daisy had been much longer and so few homes are
capable of meeting Daisy's medical needs). The Flower Girls initially
went to a shelter. I was given no information about their new foster
home when they were finally placed several days later.
After being in foster care for some time, the case with the Flower Girls was closed. Daisy and Dandelion were placed permanently with a paternal aunt. I stopped communicating with Kori when this happened. It was a natural break in our relationship.
After CPS completely closed the case, the paternal aunt that had been granted custody gave the girls back to Mom & Dad (illegally).
Daisy is now back in foster care because Dandelion was murdered (shaken/beaten to death) on May 3, 2016. I have very little information on this case as it is in Central Texas - where Mom & Dad had moved. I'm over 5 hours away and wasn't considered for placement of Daisy.
Daisy almost came back to live with us again during the summer of 2017. For reasons that were never explained to me, and despite evidence that her current fictive-kin placement was allowing contact with Mom, Daisy remained where she's at. It's complicated, but Daisy lives with Mom's legal husband (she never officially divorced the father of her first two children - this man is not Daisy's father). Kori and Daisy's dad have both relinquished their parental rights. Both parents, guilty of the death of Dandelion, are still in the middle of the criminal trials and sentencing.
(May 30, 2014 - June 20, 2014)
20 month old little boy (when he was with us) who is tall and thin and
has beautiful, blond, wispy hair. He arrived on a Friday night because
his current foster family was in need of emergency respite care. He was
supposed to stay three nights. The situation changed though and his
first foster family is no longer going to foster. After much prayer, Mr.
Amazing and I decided to make our house his home so he wouldn't have
to move again and find yet another mommy in his life. CPS thought
differently though and in order to make their paperwork easier, they
moved him away from us back to his home county.
(December 2013 - May 2014)
Came to me at age 16 and left six months later at age 17. He's a victim
of The System and - seriously - did not need to be in formal foster
care. But due to the courts and things that happened beyond anyone's
(except the judge's) real control, he was with us instead of with his
godmother. At the hearing in May 2014, the judge finally saw reason when
CPS couldn't give a good reason for him to not be with his godmother.
Ricky aged out of The System and continues to do fabulously with his
godmother. He has a job, is on the dive team, and will be a senior
2015-2016 in high school. We still see Ricky frequently and he and
Herman are good friends.
(June 2011 to Sept. 2013)
was written about these two wonderful children. Our hopes of
intervening in their case and ultimately adopting them were dashed in
September 2013. The children live with their grandmother in a situation
that was never proven to be safe. -- as of October 2014,
these cherubs are still in foster care with their grandmother. She has
not been given full custody yet. I pray for them often. -- as of December 2015, the case has been closed. They still live with their grandmother. But she is ill (with cancer). I've heard that she wants to send the children back to foster care but to the best of my knowledge, that hasn't happened yet.
Came to me at 3 1/2 and left the day before she turned 6. Sister to
Dude. Gorgeous little girl that loves babies more than anything. Has a
charming smile and a twinkle in her eye.
Dude: Came to me at 2 1/2 and left at age 5. Brother to Dolly. Adorable dimples make his smiles melt my heart.
(Jan. 2, 2011 to Sept. 2, 2011)
(Sept. 13, 2011 to Sept. 21, 2012)
Came to me at 5 1/2 years old and was 7 when she left. Pumpkin was
easy to care for but was very developmentally delayed. She functions
around the age 18-24 months. Pumpkin completely opened my eyes to
special needs parenting and the joys (cough cough) of special
education. After much needless waiting and System screw ups, Pumpkin
was finally placed with a very loving aunt and uncle.
(Sept. to Nov. 2010)
8 year old (at the time) foster daughter. Textbook case of PTSD, ODD,
anxiety and attachment disorder. Made life very interesting!
9 year old (at the time) foster daughter. Diagnosed with PTSD, anxiety,
depression and more. Also made for an interesting parenting experience!
MissArguePants and TurtleTurtle left our home after boundaries were
crossed that threatened the safety of our forever children.
not an actual person, but rather a state of dysregulation. Mr. Wonky
"visits" our home regularly. He will visit all my kids from time to
time. But he likes to complicate things for Cherub 2 the most.
currently the recruiter at our licensing agency. Prior to her current
title though, Rainbow was our actual licensing worker. She has known our
family for many years. She's the reason we're staying with our current
agency as opposed licensing through a new one.
the CPS case worker for Russell and Star. She's a young thing with a
heart for Jesus. She's a timid little church mouse though. Sweet as
anything but scared of everything. She is not what you would think of
when "CPS social worker" is said.